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Monday, March 24, 2008

5 Ways To Having Your Best Internet Profile Possible

You are finally biting the bullet and decide to try online dating. You have narrowed down one or two sites that your friends have recommended you try where they are having success meeting people. Now you have to write your internet profile. That's the hard part!

Or you have had your internet dating profile up for a while and have not seen much action lately. Perhaps it is time for you to reevaluate your profile and see if you can make improvements to attract more quality candidates to your internet profile. What if writing is not your forte? If you follow the five ideas outlined below, you will be putting your best foot forward and on your way to experiencing the excitement of internet dating or revitalizing your internet potential.

Today's dating tips for men and women are for those who want to have better success with internet dating. After checking out the format of the profile and how others are presenting themselves on that site, I encourage you to:

1. Present the most authentic you!

Show your potential dates the real you. If you put down stuff that you are not, you will attract the wrong people and eventually it will come out, causing big relationship issues down the line. For example, if you can't stand cats and say you like animals, then what will you do if your date has a cat? My philosophy is what you put out there is what you will attract. Just like an ad in a magazine - if a company advertises a car with a powerful engine, it will attract people who want that in a car.

So it is best to be honest and upfront with your profile. Describe what you need and want in a relationship. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want (as long as it is socially appropriate!). If you want marriage and a family then put that down in your profile. You will attract those who want the same things as you, and turn away those who would be scared by that comment-that's a good thing!

2. Tell your audience what's unique about you!

A key relationship question is wWhat sets you apart from the next guy or gal? What is special about you? Do you have any special talents? You want someone who appreciates that about you. If you have an artistic bent, or you sing in a chorus, describe that! If you run marathons or help out with volunteer activities, put that down. This will set you apart from all the other internet profiles out there and can help you in finding your Get It Right This Time partner.

3. Take your reader into your experiences with you!

I believe in bringing the reader into the experiences that you truly value. Not just superficially mention you like running through the park, but send out an invitation for them to join you. For instance, one of my clients described how he loves to jog in a city park in the fall when the air is crisp and the leaves are multi-tonal. Doesn't this description have a "come join me" feeling?

Don't just mention that you like concerts and movies. Describe what kind of concerts you prefer and types of movies you love. Including this type of detail will help answer relationship questions for those looking at your profile.

4. Describe what's truly important to you!

What gets you up in the morning? What truly motivates you in life? One of my clients truly values giving of herself to the community. She is an avid volunteer. I'm sure she wants to attract someone who also values giving to the community as well. When you get beyond the superficial, you will attract those who say, "This person seems to be the kind of person I want to meet!"

5. Invest in hiring a professional for the all important photo!

We do live in a visual society and we do judge a book by a cover! Studies have shown that the photo is the key to whether a person decides to check out your profile or not. If you are not sure how you come across in the photo, then ask a friend or co-worker for their opinion. I request my clients to get a professional photo 95% of the time. Make sure the photo is a current one of you, within a year or two!

Some internet dating sites do provide you with a list of photographers in your area who specialize in internet dating photos. As an added bonus, you will have a photo of yourself to give to your family members come December as a holiday gift!

By following the ideas presented above by your relationship coach, I guarantee that you will see an improvement in the type of people who are contacting you, as well as the responses you are getting from those you are contacting.

Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection, LLC

Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and dating-relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship into their lives, is the author of Motivated to Marry-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and Relationships! and speaks nationally to groups on dating and relationships. For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to her monthly ezine and teleclasses at: http://www.heartmindconnection.com

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Bulrush Bass Fishing

The bulrush (bullrush, reeds) is often confused with cattails. Bulrush tends to grow in slightly deeper waters and have more of a circular cross section as compared to the semicircular section of the cattail.

Depending on the time of year and bass feeding habits, bulrush often dominate in fish catches over cattails. I believe it's primarily due to the depth of the water (it grows in deeper water). The larger bass tend to migrate to the first structure they come to when actively feeding, and the bulrush is often closer to these deeper water migration routes.

My personal favorite technique for fishing bulrush is to pitch a Texas rigged worm. I tend to use a harder, straight tailed worm over a ribbon tailed one. The reason is that the ribbon tail will often wrap around the bulrush stem thereby wasting time and aggravating the fisherman as well as spooking fish. My favorite worm for pitching is the Zoom trickworm in the Junebug (purple/green flack) pattern. The weight I use with the Texas rig varies with water depth and wind. The shallower the water, the lighter I go. A lighter weight gives the worm a more natural fall and can get more strikes, however if too light, the worm may catch on the bulrush stems and not finish it's way to the bottom. The windier the day is, the heavier I go. This gives me better control during the pitch as well as better feel for what's biting on the other end of my line. Too light of a weight on a windy day will throw off your pitches and often get your wrapped around a bulrush stem.

The only time I resort to heavy weights is when I'm flipping matted cover in the bulrush. I'll use 1/2 - 1 oz weights in this type of situation. If matted cover exists in bulrush, you've got to get your flippin stick out and flip the mats. If you don't you will lose out on many opportunities to catch above average bass. In working the bulrush patches/lines start back from the bulrush approx. 10-15 feet and pitch. Pitch forward of the boat if possible and restrict any side pitches or back of the boat pitches. The reason for this is that the bass are often spooked by the boat passage, and by pitching sideways or towards the rear of the boat you are often pitching to spooked fish or fish that have moved due to being spooked.

Always be a line watcher, whether pitching, casting or flippin a soft plastic. Any twitch of the line or sideways motion of the line often indicates a strike, so reel down and set the hook even if you don't feel the typical thump!

When pitching, work both deep into the bulrush patch and to the outside edge of the bulrush. Try to make contact with the stems whenever possible, but don't neglect the open pockets and also work right in the middle of those pockets.

If you follow these tips, I'm sure you will be doing more catching with less fishing!

Paul Bruessow

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